Top Writer 2018 on Quora

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What’s up everyone!? It’s been a lo-o-o-ng time since I had written something here in this blog, because I am very very busy in real life. This year particularly has been off to a great start. As if I have woken up in a parallel reality where I am my best productive version.

I got a promotion at work, started a new entrepreneurial venture which I am not openly talking about, and this thing at Quora…

I have been an avid writer at Quora since a very long time. And if I remember it correctly, I have been writing since my college sophomore days. Even before, I became one of the Most Viewed Writers in topics related to electrical engineering, computer engineering, academic and college/career advice. These topics are heavily niche based at Quora. Although there are many Q&A from many writers from around the world, the academic/STEM community is not that big compared to the vast majority of the generic topics.

And I never actually cared that I am only focusing on my specific areas and not generating enough likes or popularity. I go to Quora to read other people’s opinion more than I would like to write. I write in a very casual, (sometimes with slapstick humor) and no-nonsense manner. My writing style is very direct, much like how I am as a person in real life.

I do try my level best to provide information and share a new perspective when I find it is necessary. Because I believe that is the true purpose of a knowledge based community like Quora.

The only thing which has changed in the last couple of years is that I have written a lot of answers about Jungian Cognitive Functions/MBTI and particularly about the INTJ personality type being one myself. It is still heavily a niche based area, but Quora has a massive following of INTJ related Q&A.

As of right now, I had almost written a thousand answers on Quora. So it is not clearly stated in the above notice of Quora’s March 2018 Top Writer Email, exactly which of my answers made more contribution. So I won’t take a guess. There are far too many popular writers at Quora who generate thousands of upvotes from one simple answers. My contribution thus might have been the little value I have been trying to add in the STEM and Jungian Quora community.

Sometimes life surprises me with things I have no expectation of. This top writer thing is one of them. I probably won’t subscribe to the NY Times, won’t buy any Quora gear or go to any top writer meetups. But I still take a bit pleasure thinking that I have a top writer badge on my profile for this year.

So I just want to say thanks to the Quora community for selecting me as one of the top writers this year, also to fellow Quorans for reading my answers and the followers for following me.

Four Points Career Goal Guide for INTJ Personality Type

Four Points Career Goal Guide for INTJ Personality Type

I have introduced the basic framework before, which I am about to refer to – in this blog post. So if you have not read it, check this post first:

Four Points Career Goal Guide For All (MBTI) Myers Briggs Personality Types


Hopefully, I will write this type of posts for all types eventually. But because I am an INTJ personality type myself, I thought it is better to start with INTJ.

So without any further ado, here it is-

INTJ’s Cognitive Functions:

Ni>Te>Fi>Se

When it is interpreted in terms of our 4 point model it becomes:

Autonomy(Ni)<Mastery(Te)<Impact(Fi)<Recognition(Se)

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Now, this order is not the same for everyone, which means that some might reach mastery before autonomy, or recognition before impact etc.

But the main idea of this model is, one of these 4 points is the most important to you according to your primary or talent function and the second or auxiliary function is the key to success because it is a growth function.

Usually, 1st and 2nd functions make about 90% of your personality and you reach your full potential when you develop your third and fourth function.

INTJs are forward-thinking, insightful, visionary, original, big picture driven and independent due to their first Ni aka perspective function. So naturally, they should seek careers which enable them to exercise their autonomous traits. Usually, people work up the ladder to reach autonomy in their careers. But INTJs are well-equipped with this trait! So listen up fellow INTJs, we gotta learn how to take calculative risks and turn our out-of-the-box ideas into reality. In fact, we should actually make them happen, which brings us to the next part.

INTJ’s second function is Te aka effectiveness. An ideal INTJ with a fully developed and exercised Te function knows how to get sh*t done and builds a track record of accomplishing great things. A lot of INTJs, due to being introverted, struggle with making their ideas into reality. So INTJs should gain mastery of bringing ideas into reality in the most effective way possible. That mastery may or may not be about a certain skill but rather should be about whatever needs to be done to accomplish a goal. INTJs are prone to learn and do everything on their own, which is great. I believe in that approach since I want to lead by example and I should know how to do certain things myself so that I can gain insight into the big picture and hence can lead better. But we have to remember that we should do things which makes an impact in a larger way and for that as INTJs we have to learn to inspire and guide others better. Speaking of making an impact, brings us to our next point.

Yes, INTJs are the jack-of-all-trades. They can get anything done, whatever they put their minds and hearts into. But it is also important that they do things which are valuable to them according to their own authentic (Fi) standards. Because that will help bring quality in a product or service. For example, this blog post is intended to help other INTJs maximize their career potentials but I have also written it because I am a Jungian Cognitive Function Enthusiast. As an engineering professional, I do things keeping the end goal or product in mind but that product or goal is also authentic to me. INTJs are better equipped to positively impact humanity by making a quality product or service. And the best part is when the lone wolf INTJ learns how to work with others or lead a team to make big things happen.

The last one is recognition. Some might define Te as recognition in terms of achievements but I am referring to the finer materialistic things in life here. INTJs are among the least sensory people due to their inferior Se function but they do have fine taste in things which bring sensory gratifications. Ni/Fi function influences that aspect too. But INTJs rightfully deserve the name, fame, money, property etc after all the hard work they put. But INTJs should be careful not to overindulge or become ruthless in seeking materialistic means only.


Thanks for reading…

I hope you enjoyed.

I will try to write a similar type of posts for other types in the near future. Stay tuned.


Read:

Of, By, For The INTJ: A self-help quick reference guide for INTJ personality type via Jungian Cognitive Functions – Kindle edition by Tasnia Ponkti. Health, Fitness & Dieting Kindle eBooks @ Amazon.com

There is a part two:

Science or Pseudoscience: Jungian Cognitive Functions (Part 2)

* This is my personal blog and the views expressed here are purely subjective. I hope to write on this topic in several parts to shed light on how I am “strategically” using Jungian concepts in my personal development with a unique creative approach. My personal findings, opinion, and insights might help others who are on the same journey with me.

I have described in the first part that despite being a skeptic, I am using Jung’s Cognitive Functions as a temporary tool in my personal development. And I also went in depth about my own personality type and the confusion of myself being miss-typed as some other type. In later parts, I will describe my own personal model. But today I would like to address a few aspects which usually are in question.

We know that many psychologists debunk or refuse MBTI types. They question the validity or the credentials of MBTI tests because Myers and Briggs (mom and daughter duo) did not have any professional psychology background. They designed the tests based on Carl Jung’s Cognitive Functions Theory (who himself never tested it). They came up with a questionnaire which is too “leading”. I do agree with the flaws of those typical questions.

That’s why psychologists prefer some other type testing like the Big Five Personality tests which are too vague IMHO. In that regard, whether the whole “psychology” major is science or pseudoscience-that is even a bigger question. Sorry psychologists!

I am more into neuroscience than psychology.  Hence, I am more prone to investigate the validity of Cognitive Functions Theory than the MBTI tests.

But Dario Nardi is working on some meaningful research on cognitive functions. You can go to this forum and click those “spoiler” buttons to find his research findings:

https://patents.google.com/patent/US20150079578A1/en

Thread: Dario Nardi’s Neuroscience of Personality

An even better overview is in this forum:

Dario Nardi’s Neuroscience (of the Cognitive Functions)

Or watch this video:

And now you make up your mind. Is it science or pseudoscience?


This is that long-promised article that I have been talking about:

*Important and useful for all INTJs:

https://tasniaponkti.com/2018/10/15/introducing-ebook-for-intj/

INTJ Daily Communication Hack

Four Points Career Goal Guide For All (MBTI) Myers Briggs Personality Types

An important topic for INTJs to shed light on

Four Points Career Goal Guide for INTJ Personality Type

An INTJ’s Perspective: Jungian Cognitive Functions (Part 1)

Just an FYI: Part two of my eBook series has been published

TL;DR (you can just read the highlighted text, also make sure to scroll all the way at the bottom to read other posts and find our INTJ related sponsored products).

Or you can jump right into part 2 below if you came here to understand the acknowledgement part from my eBook:

Science or Pseudoscience: Jungian Cognitive Functions (Part 2)

* This is my personal blog and the views expressed here are purely subjective. I hope to write on this topic in several parts to shed lights on how I am “strategically” using Jungian concepts in my personal development with an unique creative approach. My personal findings, opinion and insights might help others who are in the same journey with me. It is gonna be long. So brace yourself.*

In my opinion, any kind of type or categorization theory is not made to forcefully condition ourselves to behave according to our types but to identify our strengths to overcome our weaknesses.

This part will address my personal experience of being an INTJ and the confusion of being labeled as other type besides INTJ. I see many people having the same issue. So I hope this will erase some confusion for many. In later parts I will discuss my own personal development techniques.

I had always tested as an INTJ. Even before I was introduced with MBTI personality types I always knew in my head that I am different and I do not quite blend in the crowd even when I am trying very hard. And I feel less authentic and more artificial when I try to be like someone else. Being different as an INTJ means more than just being introverted and seemingly detached.

The first time I was introduced with Jungian Cognitive Functions and MBTI in a psychology class during my engineering undergrad. I am very much into engineering but since I love art, history, theater and psychology- I took these classes to fulfill my general education requirements. And I had a lot of fun learning about human psychology and behavior. I took the official typology test as well as many other personality type tests and I tested as an INTJ all the time. I did not put much thought about it during that time except for the fact that I found the result more insightful about myself. There are other types of personality tests but I find Jungian types more useful because of the use of cognitive functions.

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More recently my brother who is an ENFP, brought this topic to my attention. He described in his own opinionated way that, while zodiac signs are complete bullshit and they mostly serve to some vague confirmation biases about one’s self, MBTI types go a bit into depth on how each person “might” function on a regular basis.

The reason why I didn’t invest too much time into MBTI results during my psychology class, because (forget about zodiac signs) I am a skeptic even about type theories. I use different theories as an initial tool, when I am done digging deeper with my analysis, I go ahead and build my own opinion and theory about things (whether positive or negative). Then I try to use the good part strategically in my personal life. It is almost like I am using the best resources, equipment or tools available (even though I am not completely satisfied with it) to solve a current problem and later I can use my experience to make something on my own-kind of like how I usually do my professional job. And I don’t know if it is a coincidence that I am an INTJ-A type Capricorn female although I denounce both astrological and psychological concepts to a certain extent. The usual stereotypes found common for Capricorn and INTJ are- strategic, hardworking, ambitious and insightful. Or may be I consciously chose myself to be that way predominately.

Bottom line is, end of the day none of them help you predict a person’s intention but they might at least give you a hope to classify people into different categories to learn about their behavioral patterns. Yes, hope is a big word. But a lot of things affect our actions and behavior such as current good or bad situations, physical and mental health, life circumstances, past experiences, influences of close people, environment, personal and traditional values etc.

So recently I started taking a second look at type theories but  now I am going in depth primarily on Jungian major 8 type of cognitive functions based on which MBTI types and questionnaires are made. Each personality type has 4 major cognitive functions according to that theory. I read it somewhere that our cognitive functions do not fully develop up until our mid-30’s. So when we are young and have not gathered enough life experiences (or perhaps have been through life changing experiences), it is fairly possible that we are in reality one type but test as another type. So my take on that is to study the cognitive functions of all types to identify our natural preferences and then we should very honestly take the test even if we do not like the answers.

It is my opinion that, unless we consciously choose to stick with one type, it is possible to develop our other unused cognitive functions. What I mean by that, is we all have all 8 cognitive functions: 4 of which, by the typology theory we use predominantly and we also use our shadow functions in time of stress and excitement. That means we act like our opposite personalities in rare occasions. But with careful self-development approach, I think, we can in fact develop our “unused” cognitive functions. However,  the best practice is to stick with one type to avoid inconsistency and to embrace ourselves as one type and then work on our weaker functions to strengthen our talent functions.

For example, sometimes I find myself behaving like an ENTP when I am very excitedly exploring ideas and discussing an interesting topic. And it turns out that ENTP is my opposite personality type i,e ENTP’s 4 cognitive functions are my shadow functions-which also tells me that I am, in fact, correctly typed as an INTJ who occasionally uses shadow functions. Sometimes I am perceived as an ENTJ when I am super active- which is known as my sister type (or mirror type). And sometimes I feel like I should be  more like an INFJ and out of the many tests I had taken I once tried very hard to be more of a feeler than a thinker just to see what happens if we are not honest in out test taking process. It turned out that I barely made it as an INFJ with a 49% T and 51% F ratio on the T-F spectrum! And because I have some INTP colleagues and I admire their attention to detail (and just like they admire my big picture thinking process), I sometimes think being an INTP wouldn’t be bad either. Many INTPs want to become INTJs because INTJs are typically perceived more as an insightful go-getter while INTPs are analytical intellectual people.

When an INTJ and ENTP have conversation both sound pretty similar. Both are very direct, very confident, very opinionated, have a crude sense of humor and can be perceived as intimidating by many. The difference is that INTJ’s brain work mostly like a switch. They do not always open their mouth unless they are testing their ideas in the public without giving out their big motivation and goals or they are debating because they are confident in their conclusion about a topic which came from their personal research and insights. It is very much possible for an INTJ to stay quiet and all of a sudden almost lighting up at a topic of interest and genuinely sharing their insights which sounds very strong and opinionated to some listeners. They usually talk (if and when they do talk) in terms of high-level perspective. My mom after all these years of observing me came up with a very intelligent conclusion on her own and she does not know anything about MBTI and Jungian theories. She said about me, that if I”casually” bring a topic over and over again then that means I am genuinely working hard behind it but if I come up with a very strong opinion, chances are I am done with the process-so that opinion is not just a mere opinion but the conclusion of my findings.

So while an ENTP might just debates and discusses ideas for the sole purpose of exploration and learning from the conversation, an INTJ however, does this-either with a mission in head or just to share their critical insights. INTJs are also very secretive and they like to hide their original ideas from people. INTJs do not like to debate and often deem their opinion as right which might seem purely subjective to other NT or even NF types at first. But majority of their overarching statements with deep analysis come true. Because INTJs are so much future oriented that sometimes they just do not have the right words or means to express themselves. So while ENTP can still be perceived as a bit warmer (because of their Fe function), INTJ can come of as “know-it-all” arrogant. But both party is mostly trying to be as direct as possible without the intention of being rude.

Since Te is my growth functions, when I am getting things done I can be perceived as very commanding which is like an ENTJ. But before implementing my ideas into reality I take some time in contemplation an draw my inspiration from my Ni function. Because majority of the population is more sensory than intuitive and prefer extroversion over introversion- they don’t understand the mindset of a contemplating detached person. The very stereotypical label for that kind of a person is “moody”. But for a person like me- day dreaming and contemplation is an important part of my process. An INTJ who is doing a lot of sensory type work for a long period of time without any adequate break can feel him/herself being drained. Now-a-days I spend some time in contemplating, writing, meditating etc at my home everyday but try to be super-active at work to stay focused. That’s why without my “primary” presence of Ni I can seem as a Te dominant which is an ENTJ.

As a young INTJ (especially as a female) I have had my rough edges and I had been judged and labeled wrong my entire life. Because of some recent past life circumstances I went through some period of deep realization. I recently answered a question on Quora about how I changed the way I judge people now-a-days and that is usually by “good intention and sincere effort.” It is a very big realization for an INTJ because most of us, specially when we are young, cannot stand stupidity and inefficiency. So because of this spiritual transition I felt like I should have been more of an INFJ than and INTJ. But that is still my Fi function (known as authenticity) which I had mistaken as Fe (harmony). Also the usual stereotype about an INTJ is very strategic and systematic (they are rightfully known as “masterminds”) which gives an impression that they cannot like art, music, literature or even religion, philosophy etc which is a complete misconception. Some artist INTJ (because of this stereotype) associate themselves more with an INFJ (also known as Idealists) simply because they are artists or musician. Wrong! It is their authenticity (Fi) function which is responsible for their strong sense of moral values or beauty and their other strong(Ni/Te) and weaker(Se) functions help them in the process to become successful.

Anything which has some level of system and pattern- not only INTJ can master them, they can grow out of them and revamp the whole system in a more efficient and innovative way-be it music, art, engineering, sciences, writing etc etc. They have what I call a “structured creativity” and they are relentless in the use “some” of these talent in the outside world. I said “some” because not all ideas INTJs come up with are initially well-developed and are worth implementing. And also because INTJs are supremely competitive and critical about themselves. They are constantly refining their ideas and crafts inside. Some become so prone to perfection that they never come out of their shell and show the world the glimpse of their rich inner world. They think they are not ready yet since for them being ready means absolute perfection. INTJs who had decided to reach for excellence rather than perfection are thus more successful in life.

Lastly I want to talk about the difference among INTJ and INTP. How to tell them apart when both look pretty similar. The answer is the difference of dominant cognitive functions. In a general terms, how each of the type take action, what are each types’ strength and weaknesses-are usually the indicators of their type. An INTJs big dream is usually oriented towards the outer world. They want to use their gathered knowledge an perspective to solve a problem or create a product or service that impacts the world or (in an immediate realm) an organization, society or a country etc. I am pointing INTJs Te function. But INTPs gather knowledge and expertise mostly for their own personal growth.  An INTP immediately points out specific flaws (Ti function) of an argument or problem and they are very good at troubleshooting, while the INTJ probably won’t even notice the detail at first (unless they are so experienced in the field that they have developed to use both Te/Ti functions) and will immediately try to solve the problem from a top down systematic hierarchy keeping the overall end goal in mind.

Because of this product and project oriented approach INTJs are deemed as assets in an organization although they are not personally liked by many people and often bosses are intimidated by them. While INTPs exude a bit more warmth because of their inferior Fe functions and usually are able to thrive in an environment which are less structured and their independent pursuit of knowledge can be useful.

Anyway, I hope from my own personal experience I have given you some insights on how I differentiate myself from different personality types which are similar to mine in some ways. On later parts I will discuss how I am using my analysis to help myself develop as a person.


INTJThere are many resources online for these topics. The images I have shared are from these sites:

MBTI in a nutshell

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I am sharing some of my favorite YouTube Channels:

If you are more into following a formula for personal development, check out

Personality Hacker’s YouTube channel: Personality Hacker

But if you like to gain more perspective about each type then check out Michael Pierce’s (who is probably an INFJ)  channel: Michael Pierce

 


Read Next Part: Science or Pseudoscience: Jungian Cognitive Functions (Part 2)

Most Important Post for INTJs:

eBook: Of, By, For The INTJ

INTJ Daily Communication Hack

A career guide for all types:

Four Points Career Goal Guide For All (MBTI) Myers Briggs Personality Types

Four Points Career Goal Guide for INTJ Personality Type


 

 

 

Cherishing The Time of My Struggle

Yes, I was there where some of you are right now. And my life struggle is not over yet, it won’t be over until I die. But as long as we live, no matter what happens in our lives we always keep moving forward to the next phase. While we work very hard to get our next goal, as soon as we get it, we human beings are so ungrateful that we get used to it very fast. We always think, “Okay, now what’s next?” But seldom we reflect on how far we have come in life.

Right now as I am writing this, I am sitting on my bed in a super tiny studio apartment in San Diego. I am a single lady, thinking of my next move in life. I want to find a good life partner and get married. How long do I want to live alone and pay high rent? It is time to get a house and start a family.

As I plan forward for my next life events- I feel slightly impatient. But as of right now-I finished an electrical engineering degree from a pretty well-known school in my career field, bagged a wonderful-stable-career job, got almost a couple of years worth of experience doing the dream stuff I once aspired to do. I am independent and no one is there to tell me what to do with my life.

Right now I am recalling one of those evenings after my graduation. I dipped my feet in the Jacuzzi of our apartment complex, looking at my phone but not really looking, my mind was racing with anxiety of the unknown. I was thinking, “What will happen to me? Why am I not getting any responses from those companies-especially the DoD jobs? How long do they take? Am I already rejected? I had to borrow money from my mom to pay the next month’s bill. How long will this continue?” I breathed a sigh of grief-the one that takes you to the path of depression, the one that makes you feel that none of your attempts are apparently working.

Long story short-I came far far away from that point. And I had many countless of these struggles in my life. I think I should write a series on just those high and low points in my life. No one would believe but deep down, even when things were not working the way I expected-I knew that at the end I will be fine. I always believed in some kind of an end game. If it did not ended well-to me that is not the end. You gotta have trust in something-in you, in God or whatever. I always had trust in God almighty’s master plan- the one that he created for me.

If I knew back then what I have achieved now, I would not spend my free time in tension and anxiety. Instead I would cheer myself up with a pat in the back. I would tell myself that I am doing great and I am portraying the best example of me while struggling.

If I am still alive and well a few years from now, probably I will be upset with my child or my hubby with something trivial and probably I will forget that once I had desired for this very moment in my life. Now that I know from my past experience, instead of being stressed I am enjoying this moment of uncertainty.

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Thought of The Night-The Art of Speaking Your Mind

7:57 PM

1/28/2017

I am writing this series after a really long time. I am sorry guys that I have been very busy lately.

So tonight I will talk about a pretty important topic. The majority of cultures and societies around the world teach us “not to be” confrontational. But there is a fine line between speaking our mind and at the same time not sounding rude. Once you master that, your personal and professional life can become bliss.

I have always been an introvert and like most introverts, I have been misjudged and bullied. At a certain point during my teenage years, I felt like I had had enough. I started coming out of my shell and pretty much started flipping people’s minds with my straightforwardness. The “once introvert (miss-understood as shy) little girl” started saying things like it is. Teenage years are the time of character building. By that time I figured out that I am a dignified emotional being and if someone has said or done something to me which I didn’t like, I must speak upright when it is happening, not after the event had taken place. Because if I don’t, I will keep thinking about it the whole day subconsciously which would create an unnecessary bad vibe in my mental environment. We always make a choice between our own mental peace and people’s acceptance. I am a go-geter and for me, my mental harmony is of absolute importance. I put my mental peace on a pedestal. If my mind is not at peace, it gets in my way of getting things done.

But throughout my personal experience, I learned, “it is not what you say but how you say that makes the difference.” I am not saying you always have to put a fake smile on your face and be passive-aggressive about your feelings. But sometimes a sense of humor is necessary. The same thing- when I said it with a serious face was taken differently as opposed to when I laughed and made a joke about it. It is all in the vibe and the way we articulate it. Vibration/energy or personal aura is a very debated topic but comprises a big part of our non-verbal communication. When your boss smiles at you asking to do something with a “pretty please”- he/she is giving you order in a polite manner- and you do understand it very well. It is important to observe and read people’s intentions. Good intention is all that matters even when people are making you upset.

Guarding the tongue while listening to others first- is an important step as once what comes out of our mouth cannot be taken back.  We must be thoughtful and empathetic to others. But at the same time, it is important to precisely articulate our opinion without being arrogant and moving forward with life without breeding any grudges. I learned through experience that you cannot make everyone happy. Some people will dislike you anyway for whatever reason. Do not hide your disagreements and let it build until one fine day it reaches the point of blowing things up. Speak your mind politely when it is time to do so and never regret it. People who are your well-wishers will stand by you even when you agree to disagree with them.

Cabrillo National Monument & The Rosecrans National Cemetery (San Diego, CA)

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The main San Diego county is not very big but full of great things. There are a lot of nice beaches, shops, and restaurants around. But today I will talk about a hidden gem which is one of my absolute favorite places. I said “hidden” because it is a very understated place compared to the magnificence of the surroundings. I am an L.A county local, moved to San Diego for my current job almost a year ago. So my exploration of this sunny vibrant city still continues and I love blogging and Instagramming about my travel experiences.

So today I will talk about Cabrillo National Monument (pronounced Cabriyo) in Point Loma and the nearby beautiful Rosecrans National Cemetery area.

There is a bit of a personal story attached to this place-

I have been to San Diego a few times before with my family members. Almost 3 years ago we came to celebrate our mom’s birthday in San Diego from L.A. So the plan was to casually drive around some nearby nice destinations, eat dinner at a restaurant and go back to L.A. on the same day. From online searching, we found the Cabrillo National Monument among the top destinations. It was getting dark in the evening after a long day and when we went there we found ourselves at a nearby Navy Base with military guards.

Little did I ever know that I would be working at the same place a couple of years later, as a federal government engineer. Now I know that evening is the wrong time to go there since that area closes at around 5 pm. Even though our mobile carrier services and smartphones have improved a lot in the last couple of years, still when you get close to the last point of Point Loma, data gets lost, navigation gets confused and you might end up somewhere else nearby. One of the few reasons is, it is so close to Mexico, in fact when you reach the gate of Cabrillo National Monument your phone service might notify you, “Welcome to Mexico!”.

So if you are coming to this area come with some proper guide map or someone who knows that area, in case your phone GPS is messed up or you lose data. I recommend coming with a group for the first time. But it is a lovely place to bike around once you know the place.

Why do you want to come here where you might have a chance of feeling lost? Well, you get the unprecedented pristine 360-degree view of the San Diego Bay area with the San Diego Down Town, Coronado at one side and the endless pacific ocean on the other side from the high lands. Plus you learn some history. Come on a clear sunny day. Buy some of those magic dye t-shirts from the store which change colors in the sunlight.

Don’t forget to stop by the cemetery area to check out the view on both sides and pay an honor of silence for our fallen servicemen.

If you love photography like I do, this place is your paradise. I went more recently on my birthday with my family members. And they were very happy and excited to see that I work nearby in such a nice place.

Note: I have added the URL of the official San Diego Tourism Blog photo as the featured image.
For more information please visit:
Find Your Park – San Diego’s Cabrillo National Monument



Check out my other blog posts on San Diego:

San Diego, CA-Mission Beach and La Jolla Cove

San Diego, CA- Ocean Beach

Thought of The Night- Contentment

12/4/2016

10:14 PM

I am really sorry folks! I have not been blogging regularly for a while. I am getting side-tracked in my daily work routine. Everyday I come home thinking tonight I will write something but somehow feel really tired. I recently downloaded a phone app called “Design Home”. So that keeps me busy for a few minutes before going to bed.

But tonight I have decided to write on the topic called “Contentment”.What is contentment? “A state of happiness and satisfaction.”

Really, feeling content and grateful is the key to happiness. Happiness is not based on money, career or anything else. It is based on our state of mind. But does contentment mean killing your ambition, goal and drive? No, atleast not for me.

I always have personal goals and ambition-be it about my career, life style or spiritual well being. The best thing I learned from my experience is not to have any kind of attachment or self-entitlement with my dreams while I am trying to achieve them. I don’t think “I have to” get that job at that particular company, or go to that prestigious school to get that degree or buy a luxurious house in that posh neighborhood. I don’t think if I don’t get all these my life is losing its purpose. I now-a-days actually think like “what if” I get it instead of “I must” get it. My change of perspective has helped me stay calm and positive. It has helped me to stay stress and anxiety free. This approach has actually helped me to get things done while being patient and persistent in my path.

Past has passed and no one has seen the future yet. So let’s feel content with what we have for now. Let’s take it by each day. Be grateful guys!

Goodnight!

বৃষ্টি নাকি ঝড় বিলাস?

আমি থাকি San Diego, California তে। গত দুদিন ধরে খুব ঝোড় হাওয়া বইছে। Southern California তে বৃষ্টি প্রায় হয়না বললেই চলে। যা একটু হয় তাও আবার শীতের সময়। তাই এইখানে মানুষ কিছুটা বৃষ্টির জন্য অপেক্ষা করে থাকে। সেই বৃষ্টিও খুব মুশল ধারে বৃষ্টি না, অল্প কিছুটা হয়ে শীতের পরিমাণটা বাড়িয়ে দেয়।

আমি Los Angeles county তে থাকতাম বহুদিন। কইদিন Northern California তেও থেকেছি। আমার মতে San Diego র মত এত আরামদায়ক আবহাওয়া পুরো যুক্ত রাষ্ট্রে নেই। বছরে বেশির ভাগ সময় ঝকঝকে রোদেলা আকাশ, নিরমল আরদ্রতাহীন বাতাস। কিন্তু সমুদ্রের কাছে হওয়ায় রৌদ্রের তীব্রতা নাই। আর পাহাড়, সুন্দর সমুদ্র সৈকতের অনন্য একটি জায়গা।

আমি ক্যালিফোর্নিয়াতে বেশ আরামেই আছি। আসল শীত কি কখনও বুঝিনি। শুধু বাংলাদেশের আবহাওয়ার যেই জিনিষটা খুব মিস করি তা হল বৃষ্টি।

তো যাইহোক। সেই ঝোড় হাওয়া কাল পর্যন্ত বিল্ডিঙের চিপায় চাপায় একধরনের কান্নার মত হুহু শব্দ করছিল। আজকে বিকেল থেকে কিছুটা ঝিরি ঝিরি শীতের বৃষ্টি শুরু হয়েছে। হুহু শব্দের আওয়াজ থেকে মনে পরে গেল বাংলাদেশে আমার কৈশোরের কথা। বাংলা মটর, ইস্কাটন রোডের একটা এপার্টমেন্টে থাকতাম সেই সময়। আমার রুমটা ছিল বিশাল, ঠিক পুরা ফ্ল্যাটের এক কোনায়। দরজাটা বন্ধ করলেই আমার ঘরটা একটা নিজস্ব পৃথিবী হয়ে যেত। একদিকের জানালায় ঘন জঙ্গল আর অন্য জানালায় পাশের লাগোয়া বিল্ডিং দেখা যেত। বাসার সামনেই ব্যাস্ত রাস্তা। অথচ আমার ঘর থেকে যানজটের গাড়িঘোড়ার শব্দ শোনা  যেত না। পাশের জঙ্গলে আম, কাঁঠাল সহ অনেক ধরনের গাছ। মাঝে মাঝে বুনো বেড়াল, বেজি ইত্যাদিও দেখা যেত। প্রচণ্ড বাতাসে আমার ঘরের দরজা স্বশব্দে বন্ধ হয়ে যেত প্রায়ই। তাই সবসময় একটা ছোট টুল দিয়ে দরজা ঠেকা দিয়ে রাখতে হত। মাঝে মাঝে মধ্য রাতে মনে হত বাতাস আমার দরজার নব মুচড়ে খোলার চেষ্টা করছে। এটা কীভাবে সম্ভব? কি ভুতুরে ব্যাপার! আমি ঐ সময় একটু আধ্যাত্মিক টাইপ ছিলাম। যেই সময় মানুষ বাইরে হইচই করে, আমি দরজা বন্ধ করে ঝড় বৃষ্টি উপভগ করতাম, আর কুরান, শুনীলের ঐতিহাসিক উপন্যাশ, ভূতের বই, বিজ্ঞানের বই আরও বহু জিনিশ পড়তাম।

যখন ঝড় হত তখন বাতাস সেই জঙ্গল আর বিল্ডিঙের চিপায় ঠিক একি রকম হুহু কান্নার আওয়াজ করত। আজ সম্পূর্ণ ভিন্ন জায়গায় বসে পুরানো দিনের কিছু কথা মনে পরে গেল।

 

The Quickest Way To Make a Lame Decision

I have written lengthy posts about Life Hack Tips: When you should NOT make a big decision and Life Hack Tips: HOW To Make Good Decisions.

But those are for serious life changing scenarios. How do you make small decisions on a daily basis? The kind of decisions which perhaps do not change the outcome of your life but you still end up spending quite a bit of time pondering over them, such as- what you are going to wear for an occasion, what movie are you going to watch and what you are going to eat for the dinner? Something really unimportant yet important.

You might be shaking your head-“why is this even a blog post?” But trust me I see people being indecisive and fighting over small things to come up with a quick decision.

Okay, now I hate to make lengthy posts especially when it is something insignificant. This is how I take a lame decision, “drum roll” please:

fruitmachine

I go to this website: “Fruit Machine” and I write my options and run the fruit-machine for three times, whichever comes the most is usually my choice. People also use the method of flipping a coin. Whatever works for you. The main goal is to know what you “really” want. You don’t always have to follow what the result is. For example, I was trying to make a choice between what to eat for lunch- Indian or Mexican food? Indian food came twice but I figured out I was actually leaning more towards Mexican Food that day. Pretty Lame right!? But it saved me time to decide where I want to go for lunch.