What’up everyone! This is that long promised article. Today I am going to give a communication hack for us INTJs in our own robotic way. Yes! We systematize everything. While other MBTI types laugh at us, why don’t we automate ourselves through the difficult process of dealing with fellow humans on a daily basis?
So without any further ado, let’s get started-
There are two basic sections of this diagram.
- How to perceive.
- How to judge.
- Perceive the world (Ni<–>Se): The dominant introverted intuition (Ni) aka perspective function takes so much of INTJs’ brain power that they forget to live in the moment because of their inferior Extroverted sensing (Se) function aka sensation. But you cannot completely unleash the potential of Ni without the help of Se. Being mindful is very important but challenging for INTJs.
Best case scenario is when you have mastered the technique of Ni and Se simultaneously in a closed feedback loop.
What is Ni?
Copying from one of my own Quora post-
“Ni is the insightful vision. Ni gives you an initial hunch and later it reveals itself by connecting the dots between different things. It is like putting the puzzle pieces together in a big picture frame.”
For INTJs Se collects data from the present reality and feeds it back to Ni. And in return, Ni finds meaningful connections between the data and tells you what to specifically watch out for to find the patterns and trends among things.
2. Taking effective action based on the perception (Fi<–>Te):
“The motto is to say or do things which are useful”.
So once INTJs get positive signal from their perceiving functions they should express themselves using their personal values and judgement (Introverted Feeling – Fi aka authenticity function).
But the catch is -that they should fake it as Extroverted Feeling (Fe) to sound more harmonious. This is actually the life saving part of this communication hack.
INTJs are known for being blunt and direct.They are not people pleaser by nature. But at least sounding polite and humble can help INTJs build and retain meaningful relationships in life. The trick is to put your best intentions forward.
And when INTJs do have to take action they will only do things which are effective for them and others, using their Extroverted Thinking (Te) aka effectiveness functions. Developing this growth/auxiliary function can help INTJs become really successful in the long run. Te is the key of achievements for them.
3. Lastly, if INTJs get bad data from their perceiving functions then majority of the petty problems -such as rude comments, stupidity, ignorance, passive aggressiveness can be ignored or be tackled with positive sarcasm.
Now if there are negative circumstances which you (as an INTJ) MUST tackle, please DO NOT react at the spur of the moment. Instead use the combination of your Ni and Te functions to take measurable actions. This part is not covered in the diagram because INTJs are by nature strategists. They should use their strategy to be diplomatic when required. They just have to take human emotions into consideration for effective conflict resolution.
If you are not familiar with the Jungian Cognitive Functions mentioned here then read my Quora post:
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