Tag: Mind

When My Mind and My Heart Align

Oftentimes, it feels like my mind and my heart are in disagreement.

My mind is like a critical parent telling me what’s practical and what is doable.

My heart is like a child in a fantasy land which wants everything nice and pretty.

When I follow my mind, the little child inside me is not happy, it is constantly aching.

When I try to follow the child’s ideals, I fall on my face and bruise myself.

The rare moments happen when both the parent and the child agree on something.

It feels like the entire universe aligns for me when my mind and my heart align.

So now-a-days people call me picky and perfectionist, but I wait patiently for my mind and my heart’s agreement on things, as both the parent and the child must work together.

Indeed the grand vision of my life is fulfilled when every part of me is in harmony with one another.

The Paradise of My Imagination

Not sure if there is really a life after death…

Or if there are really heavens and hells in the afterlife….

Even if there are, I am not sure where I will be after I die…

I also heard that no human sense can comprehend how magnificent the heavens can be.

But I think for now heaven and hell are in our mind…

That’s why I created my own paradise in my mind with the things that I adore.

There are birds, critters, kittens, heavenly babies, trees, flowers, and foliage.

But most importantly there is a soothing waterfall…

with glistening water stream running down constantly with a gentle soothing sound.

The time is neither morning nor evening, dawn, or dusk.

I am sitting on the bank of this waterfall in the warm coziness of angelic vibes of babies, kittens, and critters. There is a small, cozy hut nearby where I rest in my comfy bed or look through the window to see the green hills, the waterfall, and the sky with a cup of tea and a nice book to read.

I don’t know if there is a heaven or hell in the afterlife or what is out there waiting for me after I die…

But I sure have created this paradise in my mind…

I open it whenever the world is cruel outside….

It’s a gateway I created in my mind to rest my soul in peace.

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Thought of The Night-The Art of Speaking Your Mind

7:57 PM

1/28/2017

I am writing this series after a really long time. I am sorry guys that I have been very busy lately.

So tonight I will talk about a pretty important topic. The majority of cultures and societies around the world teach us “not to be” confrontational. But there is a fine line between speaking our mind and at the same time not sounding rude. Once you master that, your personal and professional life can become bliss.

I have always been an introvert and like most introverts, I have been misjudged and bullied. At a certain point during my teenage years, I felt like I had had enough. I started coming out of my shell and pretty much started flipping people’s minds with my straightforwardness. The “once introvert (miss-understood as shy) little girl” started saying things like it is. Teenage years are the time of character building. By that time I figured out that I am a dignified emotional being and if someone has said or done something to me which I didn’t like, I must speak upright when it is happening, not after the event had taken place. Because if I don’t, I will keep thinking about it the whole day subconsciously which would create an unnecessary bad vibe in my mental environment. We always make a choice between our own mental peace and people’s acceptance. I am a go-geter and for me, my mental harmony is of absolute importance. I put my mental peace on a pedestal. If my mind is not at peace, it gets in my way of getting things done.

But throughout my personal experience, I learned, “it is not what you say but how you say that makes the difference.” I am not saying you always have to put a fake smile on your face and be passive-aggressive about your feelings. But sometimes a sense of humor is necessary. The same thing- when I said it with a serious face was taken differently as opposed to when I laughed and made a joke about it. It is all in the vibe and the way we articulate it. Vibration/energy or personal aura is a very debated topic but comprises a big part of our non-verbal communication. When your boss smiles at you asking to do something with a “pretty please”- he/she is giving you order in a polite manner- and you do understand it very well. It is important to observe and read people’s intentions. Good intention is all that matters even when people are making you upset.

Guarding the tongue while listening to others first- is an important step as once what comes out of our mouth cannot be taken back.  We must be thoughtful and empathetic to others. But at the same time, it is important to precisely articulate our opinion without being arrogant and moving forward with life without breeding any grudges. I learned through experience that you cannot make everyone happy. Some people will dislike you anyway for whatever reason. Do not hide your disagreements and let it build until one fine day it reaches the point of blowing things up. Speak your mind politely when it is time to do so and never regret it. People who are your well-wishers will stand by you even when you agree to disagree with them.

Life Hack Topic: Mindfulness

 

What is mindfulness? It is a state of being aware or conscious at the present moment. Why am I talking about this today? Because mindfulness is very important in our daily lives to be happy and successful. I attended a career development session last year and mindfulness was taught for about a few weeks with a lot of emphasis before moving on to resume writing and the job-hunting process.

Imagine you are attending a lecture or listening to your boss for some important instructions, but your mind is drifting away somewhere else. Or you made some serious mistakes because you were not paying attention. Just one small mistake one day can make you pay a big price. So it is extremely important to concentrate better, to be mindful, to be awake at the present moment (however you want me to describe). One of the keys to success is effective listening and we need to be mindful in order to listen better.

Some spiritual coaches talk about consciousness and they use a lot of fancy words and claim they can help people become more aware of themselves. In all essence, they are talking about mindfulness. 

Why is it hard for a lot of us to be mindful? If you notice carefully, when we are not mindful, we are either thinking about some past events or some imaginary future events. We think about the past because-either we want to re-live some happy moments or we wish we could have changed certain things of the past. We contemplate the future because we are either planning something or we are suspecting something good or bad might happen. Now we cannot change anything in the past nor do we have any control over the future. So why spoil the present moment for things which are not in our control? The worst part is, when we are stressed, we tend to be less mindful.

How do you become mindful? I am sharing with you a very simple trick. Whenever you find yourself lacking focus, just breathe in and breathe out, bring your concentration to your breathing exercise for a few moments. Let all other thoughts pass. Activate your senses while you are doing it. Try not to think of anything else. Just concentrate on your existence. Do this simple trick everyday everywhere. It will be hard at first, you will find yourself going in and out of your awareness. But don’t give up, keep practicing. You can spend some quiet time every day doing this mindfulness meditation. Prayers do help a lot as well if you have any particular faith. But you should always be doing this, whenever you are finding yourself not paying enough attention.

Thought of The Night- Law of Attraction

10/20/2016

8:56 PM

I’m writing another weird post before going to bed today. Two days ago, I was expressing my opinion about reincarnation. If you have not read it yet, then read it here: Reincarnation

Today I want to talk about the Law of attraction. No, I am not giving tips on how to attract people to make romantic relationships. I am going to emphasize how, with our positive thoughts, we attract more positivity in our lives and with negativity we do the complete opposites. Although, that goes for relationships as well.

One day I was going to my work, it was a perfect sunny morning in San Diego and the view was amazing. I was thinking about a personal problem that I was facing at that time. Then I realized, the state of well-being is generated through our mind. And if you are unhappy, it doesn’t matter whether the surrounding area is like a paradise, you still don’t enjoy it. It becomes really important at that point to shift all your energy to a positive state. Life is too short and everything is temporary. I asked myself, why am I not enjoying the morning with this great weather and ocean view on my way to work? I should be rather grateful that I am alive and well.

When I go through some stress nowadays, I tell myself that it is nothing and I have had tougher times in my life before. With patience comes ease. During my dark times, when I was not finding any hope and I was almost losing my confidence in me, there is one verse from Al-Quran that changed my whole outlook towards life. There is no bigger truth than this for me.

“…..And whosoever fears Allah(God) and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out of all hardships.
And he will provide him from sources unimaginable to him. And whosoever puts his trust in Allah, then He will suffice him.” (65: 2-3)

At the core of my concept of the law of attraction is thanking God almighty and asking him for help to make positive changes in my life.