My Home, Sweet Home- Part 3

By now, I have decorated almost all the interior space of my new home. Next, I will do my backyard. I will post the two guest bedrooms and the study room photos in a separate part.

But today, I have decided to post pictures of my family room. This place was cluttered for months until, more recently, I bought that oversized beautiful sectional couch from Sam’s/Ashely store. I decorated the entire space, keeping the couch in mind. It was a bit impromptu, but now it looks like a boho chic/mountain/Arizona theme room.

Except for that rusty orange rocking chair, rug, wall decor space, cat tree, standing lamp, and bar chairs, all other items are again from Ashley’s Home Store/Sam Lavitz.

I preferred the convenience of proximity to my house, home delivery/assembly options, and the wide selection of their furniture over other stores. I ended up buying around 90-95% of items from them, and this is not a sponsored blog.

Let’s take a look at some of the pictures of this space. My cats are enjoying it, and how about you? What do you think? I may add a tv here later mounted on the wall. But for now, I am okay with it as it is.

When My Mind and My Heart Align

Oftentimes, it feels like my mind and my heart are in disagreement.

My mind is like a critical parent telling me what’s practical and what is doable.

My heart is like a child in a fantasy land which wants everything nice and pretty.

When I follow my mind, the little child inside me is not happy, it is constantly aching.

When I try to follow the child’s ideals, I fall on my face and bruise myself.

The rare moments happen when both the parent and the child agree on something.

It feels like the entire universe aligns for me when my mind and my heart align.

So now-a-days people call me picky and perfectionist, but I wait patiently for my mind and my heart’s agreement on things, as both the parent and the child must work together.

Indeed the grand vision of my life is fulfilled when every part of me is in harmony with one another.

We Will Meet Again

We will meet again.

We will meet again when the time is right.

And the universe has arranged it’s set-up so the stars align so bright.

I do believe that we crossed our paths for a reason.

We will meet when karma comes to a closed-loop, and God has made his decision.

The hardships of life have swamped me now, and I don’t know about you.

But we will meet again when we are meant to do.

Not sure what will happen then?

Will we hug each other like the long lost friends?

Will we live happily ever after then?

Or will that be again another end?

But have the patience for now, as I am sure when the time is right, we will meet again.



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How Can Our Designs Complete?

How Can Our Designs Match?

I keep hearing that matches are made in heaven.

But it seems like most of us waste our lives with miss-matches,

while our matches might be going through the same agony with someone else.

It would have been better if we were given some broken half birthmarks with intricate and unique designs so that we could search for our other halves easily.

We could post ads everywhere to find the right match for our incomplete designs.

The story of us finding our love could be like those cliche movie scenes where siblings separated at birth are met many years later matching their lockets.

The Power Of Visualization In Achieving Life Goals

I am one of the most effective people I know in my life. And that statement is not self-promotion. I pretty much achieve anything I put my mind (and heart) into.

I get asked all the time by my friends, family, peers, and even online how I study, manage my time or how do I focus on my goals, etc.

And  I have written a lot of things on my personal blog and Quora about Law Of Attraction, Mindfulness, Task Management techniques like making to-do-lists, etc all of which are excellent advice to make yourself on track to reach your goals.

Plus, you might as well have your very own technique. Besides, some people don’t like structure or a frame, they prefer flexibility and spontaneity. 

Some also talk about positive self-talk. There is nothing wrong with that. I am sure it might work for some people as well.

Every morning when you can wake-up, start your day by looking in the mirror and say things like, “I am great. Today is a great day and I will be successful, etc.” (Sorry I am not trying to sound cliche).

Except, there is something wrong with thinking about success and failure before realizing your goals. It creates polarity in your mind. Because you have defined what success means to you, you are stressing yourself, even more, trying to chase it, and therefore you never attempt it or follow through till the end because of the fear of failure and rejection.

So instead of all the popular common strategies (I mentioned above), we should initially “realize” the goal.

And the first step of that realization is “visualization” and trying to grasp or sense the final product or destination.

Do you wish to work in a certain position and at a certain company? Imagine yourself already doing that in your mind.

Do you wish to date someone, picture yourself with that person, and think how happy you would be with him/her?

Do you want to buy a home or start a business? Or go to a certain college for a certain major, or earn certain credentials? Picture yourself every day, all day long with such accomplishments while you take your next steps towards that dream.

And make that imagination as detailed as possible, i.e gather more data, learn more or research about the situation, person, position, environment, object, etc and so on. Study it, and think you are part of it and you are already acing it. Climb it, conquer it. And until you do it, don’t stop.

Anytime you cannot realize what outcome you are looking for you should take a pause and rethink to fix that first.

For example, I get asked this question all the time, even on Quora, how long one should study each day to prepare for an exam? Somehow 8-10 hours seems like an ideal number for many.

And I always tell people that studying for 8-10 hours is not the goal here. It is a step that is part of the process. The real goal here is to “show” mastery or prowess in a certain subject or topics in an exam which should lead to high scores. So no matter what you do as a technique, you should verify whether you are reaching the level of proficiency that you can prove in an exam in a given set of time or deadline. So practice, take mock tests, understand the topic well, do whatever you need to do, just do. The number of hours does not matter. It could be 5-6 hours a day instead of 8-10 if one is highly focused on studies without any distraction.

And I can go on and on with many other real-life examples. Visualizing the end goals helps you become more intuitive throughout the process of accomplishing them. You can navigate, make an adjustment, and optimize your process based on the outcome you are expecting.

The majority of the time after I am done picturing clearly what I want to do, I literally observe myself working and sailing towards it.

This is a combined process of Law Of Attraction (LOA) and mindfulness. When you decide what you need to do, you are already orienting yourself towards that.

Now, in the next parts, I will elaborate on how or what else I do to get something done. I will publish the next parts on my Patreon page.

So stay tuned.

Conquering Personal Demons (Patreon Content)

People die only once.

But the ones who battle depression and anxiety, experience little death each moment.

It feels as if I am standing alone late at night on a lonely platform with a ticket and a luggage in my hand to board the only train which just left me.

I stand there in the cold night, feeling lonely and hollow inside with despair.

I prepare myself to board the next train, and it arrives soon.

But that feeling of hollowness stays somewhere within, which I never want to relive ever in my life.

(To be continued……)

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The Paradise of My Imagination

Not sure if there is really a life after death…

Or if there are really heavens and hells in the afterlife….

Even if there are, I am not sure where I will be after I die…

I also heard that no human sense can comprehend how magnificent the heavens can be.

But I think for now heaven and hell are in our mind…

That’s why I created my own paradise in my mind with the things that I adore.

There are birds, critters, kittens, heavenly babies, trees, flowers, and foliage.

But most importantly there is a soothing waterfall…

with glistening water stream running down constantly with a gentle soothing sound.

The time is neither morning nor evening, dawn, or dusk.

I am sitting on the bank of this waterfall in the warm coziness of angelic vibes of babies, kittens, and critters. There is a small, cozy hut nearby where I rest in my comfy bed or look through the window to see the green hills, the waterfall, and the sky with a cup of tea and a nice book to read.

I don’t know if there is a heaven or hell in the afterlife or what is out there waiting for me after I die…

But I sure have created this paradise in my mind…

I open it whenever the world is cruel outside….

It’s a gateway I created in my mind to rest my soul in peace.

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Now you can hear the recitation with awesome visuals:

“My Mind Is A Fortress”

Revisiting the state of my mind for those who don’t know it.

My mind is a fortress, a sacred place atop of the imaginary tallest mountain.

I meditate there and connect with the source of my supreme power (God). This is the place of my inspiration and creativity.

Do you know what is truly intimate?

To welcome someone into their inner sacred world of dreams, hopes, visions, and fantasy.

There is a secret passage leading to the top of that fortress roof. There is no door, it is always open.

But no one knows how to get there unless I guide them towards my inner self.

There is a problem with this secret place. And the problem is that there is an entry upon my guidance, but there is no hypothetical exit.

Rarely I volunteer to show my inner sacred mind to others. 

But if you ever found it, you might enter as you please but you take an exit only with my permission.

I trust no one to let them be here.

But if I trust you and you broke that trust, you are forever alienated in a dark hypothetical cell of this fortress where you sometimes feel the gentle cool breeze coming from the high ventilator above, but can never see the sky.

No matter, where you go, you might be thinking that you are living your life, but you forever will be in that dark place of my mind, because you took my real intimacy for granted. 

And this is your punishment from me.

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The Thought of The Night- “Revenge Is Self-Consuming”


The Thought of The Night- “Revenge Is Self-Consuming”

12:51 am (EST)

10/29/2020

It is past my usual bedtime.

It’s been a long time since I wrote something on this “thought of the night” series on my WordPress blog. The last time I wrote something like this blog post was in 2017. It goes to show that I lack consistency in my hobbies.

Hobbies are for relaxation and unwinding in leisure, but a bit of consistency goes a long way.

But, anyway…

Today I will talk about how I felt vengeful at certain times in the past, but life kept happening, and I kept moving forward instead. And I am so glad that I did (move forward).

Yes, in the grand scheme of things moving forward and trying to live better or do better is the best thing you can do.

I know- this sounds cliche, and I have heard this specific suggestion from friends and family whenever I was in deep sh*t and needed uplifting.

Today I am not trying to write some of those age-old cliche lectures on how karma is a b*tch and time heals everything. What goes around, comes around… Blah blah!

Karma is true, though; time heals most things (well, it puts specific painful memories in some locked compartments in our mind) but not everything.

But not trying to get even with the people who either wanted to harm me or got in my way of achieving something was not about karma, nor were they about my feelings. Although my wounds are still there, being the pragmatic person I am, I always let my head lead me.

I did the mental math and played different scenarios in my head, and in most cases, it just seemed counterproductive to get back at people who were against me. The amount of energy one needs to take to plan revenge can be used to transcend that situation by moving forward quickly and effectively. Besides, one needs to look back and live in the past to take revenge, whereas I like my future potential more.

So revenge is self-consuming. Also, it has the potential to add more uncertainties and more risks to already existing miseries.

In difficult situations, getting back at enemies with practical steps is essential. Seeking justice for oneself and others is often a moral duty.

Otherwise, the daily narcissists, sociopaths, passive aggressors, bullies, parasitic leeches, and soul-sucking vultures should be avoided and ignored at all costs.

A new job comes after a job loss, good health (sometimes) comes after bad ones, good fortune comes after the financial crisis, and a good relationship mends a broken heart. And even if people die, they just die, full stop. Perhaps there is a new beginning after death as well.

None of these are the end of anything. Perhaps destroying or ending enemies is not necessarily the goal of taking revenge.

The best revenge is when you gradually make the negative people in your life irrelevant, like they don’t matter- neither to you nor to society.

The first step is effectively seeking justice (if possible) and doing better things than what has been damaged. And the second is to remove these individuals from your life. Sometimes some of these people are your close ones, and it is irresponsible to remove them or ignore them entirely from your life. But at least keep a respectable distance, and even if you give them any entry back into your life, don’t be the same as you were before. Make them realize that what you have been through and your current equation with them is the updated version from past mistakes.

People who harm you, don’t break them back, but you should openly and genuinely talk about your experience so others know what you are going through. Sometimes this is not possible immediately because narcissistic sociopaths are very big about their reputations. But eventually, other people need to learn about them, and words should be spread out so that more people don’t become victims of such aggressors.

Anyway, that’s it for today…

Hopefully, I will bring a new topic for another day.

Good night!